Updated: Sep 4, 2020
Photograph courtesy of Tianshu Liu
Find YOU; find it all
"The discovery of your purpose in life is the foundation on which your destiny rests"
You need to be precise about your definition of success. Certainly success, from my point of view, may well be different from success from your point of view. However, there are generally accepted conditions that you and I consider SUCCESS. It is very simple: enjoying good health, enjoying love, and have the material needs covered, so that life is pleasant. Do we agree with this basic definition of SUCCESS? Suppose yes. Remember, we follow the principle of copying the successful. The average Japanese usually plan the great aspects of their lives: education, academics, choosing a partner, birth and raising children. Japanese women try to invest the time of their youth in becoming productive people (studying, training and achieving optimal socio-economic conditions) so that they do not have to dedicate time to such an enterprise, when they are of age to start a family.
At this point, when the Japanese couple finds out that they will be parents for the first time, one of their plans is to create a savings fund for their child's university studies. As you can see, these are not complex life projects that we cannot take on in our Western culture. It all comes down to ATTITUDE, Oh keyword very close to miraculous! ATTITUDE, ATTITUDE, ATTITUDE! My ATTITUDE forces me to formulate a life plan. How do I develop a life project? How do I plan my life? Is there a universal manual? Do we have an exact guide that tells us how life works? To exist potentially means to build projects in which a person displays his/her skills and resources. He/She anticipates a future in which the goal of self-actualization awakens and sustains that unfolding. These projects revolve in a particularly prominent way around two great issues, love and work.
The life project is the direction that a person marks on his/her path, based on the set of values that he/she has integrated and hierarchized in his/her experience, in the light of which he/she engages in the multiple situations of his/her existence, especially in those in who decides his/her future, as are the state of life and profession. To develop your life project you have to start from your own reality; your own history. Don't be afraid to face your own story. Be realistic; don't be fooled. Assume what your life is and has been; don't imagine how you wish it had been. Accept it. It's your story. The greatest difficulty in drawing up the life project lies in having to make a decision, in having to choose a fundamental direction to the exclusion of one or more other directions.
Frequently in the face of this commitment, an attitude of flight is adopted that leads the person to a state of indecision, that is, towards an "existential conflict" that, by not being resolved, becomes chronic. The fear of responsibility, the inability to renounce any of the possibilities presented, the influence of the social environment contrary to the definitive commitments. They are frequently the causes of this unresolved conflict. Having a life project is essential. Otherwise one lives aimlessly, adrift; you live without meaning. This is the drama that many people live in today. Many of their friends live without knowing what for; without a meaning, without a purpose that guides their lives; adrift. Therefore, it is important that you develop your own life project. Today we invite you to take that step. We invite you to discover how important it is.
Certainly, the discovery of your purpose in life is the foundation on which your destiny rests In this process it is necessary to ask yourself a series of questions that will help you to develop your life project:
1) How am I? What are the typical traits of my temperament? What are my strengths and weaknesses? Are there elements of my person, physical or psychic, that I live "with resignation" or even with disgust? Which? Why? Would I like to be in another way, "dream" of that other way, or do I accept myself as I am and try to take advantage of my possibilities? What are my potentialities and talents? What am I capable of doing? Do I know my limitations?
2) What are and have been the great difficulties of my life? Am I suffering from trauma or complex? How did they originate?
3) What kind of people surround me? Is your influence negative or positive? In what type of environment do I operate?
4) What are my expectations for the future? What are the feelings that predominate in me when thinking about the future: hope and illusion, or fear and distrust?
5) Where do I want to go in the short, medium and long term? Am I realistic with the goals that I set for myself? 6) Am I willing to pay the price for reaching my goals? Am I willing to work hard?
Once these questions have been answered, it is convenient to start working on a project that includes the basic areas such as: Relationship, Finance, Health, Family, Career. All of this on the basis of your best interest. Beyond what you may want, taking into account that what you want is not always what you need. Consider all these areas in the short, medium and long term and your vision of life will be totally different.